When Jesus learned that John the Baptist had been beheaded by Herod he withdrew by boat to a solitary place in order to be alone. "hearing of this the crowds followed him on foot, from the towns." when Jesus landed and saw a large crowd he had compassion on them and healed their sick."Mt.14:13-14 When evening came the disciples told Jesus that they should send the people away so that they may be able to buy food. Jesus tells them "they do not need to go away. You give them something to eat."Mt. 14:16 The disciples told Jesus that"we have here only 5 loaves of bread and 2 fish."Mt. 14:17
This type of response would be typical of most people today. Many of us see only what we don't have- or how little we do have. We fail to see the blessings that God has given us and therefore we are always desiring what we don't have. This" negative vein" of thought is much like cancer-and will overflow into all areas of life. Being negative and having a bad attitude will eventually consume you . Negativity is consuming and like a fire out of control it burns up everything in its path. When you allow yourself to become negative about one thing, it goes on into another area of your life. For example, you start out being negative and worrying about money, then it goes to clothes and material possessions and then your body and your self. Being negative is a bad habit. It is like a weed that sprouts up inside of us and we must pull it and out before it takes root deep inside of us. This is why Paul wrote in II Corth. 10:5 "We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. The way we feel about ourselves effects everyone and everything in our lives. Harboring feelings of low self esteem and having a lack of self love impacts our ability to love others and to receive love. If you fail to see good and self worth within yourself -how can you see good in others? It is imperative that we search our hearts and minds regarding how we feel about ourselves. Our feelings of self worth has an impact on our ability to have a intimate relationship with God. When a person doesn't love themselves - then how can that person love others? And, if you don't love others then the love of God is not within you. "We love because He first loved us. If anyone says, "I love God", yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, can not love God, whom he has not seen. And He has given us this command; who ever loves God must also love his brother." 1 John 4: 19
When a person truly loves themselves they are free to love others and when a person has Jesus inside of their hearts and minds - the love of God flows from them. When someone accepts Jesus and allows Him to take up residence within him- that love flows through them like a fountain. His unconditional love will grow inside of you and become a part of you. Jesus told the woman at the well, " If you knew the gift of god and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water."Jh.4:10 Jesus loves us warts and all. He sees the bad and the good. When we receive that love and accept it as a free gift - then we will be more accepting and loving of others. He can help us overcome the flaws in our nature and the character defects we need to work on. He will carry us through the hard times and give us wisdom that can only come from Him. There are many people in the bible who had issues with confidence, self esteem and shortcomings. But, they overcame their personal handicaps in order to do great things for God. Some were unsure and lacked confidence and some were afraid or scared. For example, Moses - when God told him what he must do- he said, he was slow of speech and ask God to send someone else to do it! (Exodus 4:10-13), Then there was Gideon who was scared because of his size, he needed assurance. (Judges 6:15) Finally, look at Barack- when called to go into battle he said he would only go if Deborah (who was a prophet/ Judge) went with him. (Judges 4:8) These people had one thing in common - they looked at themselves and only saw their flaws and defects. When God speaks to you and pulls on your heart strings to do something for Him- already knows you inside and out. He will give you all you need to do the job. He will equip you and give you the gifts to accomplish the appointed task set before you. Always remember what Jesus said, "with man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." Mt. 19:26 What may look like only 5 loaves and 2 fish - is in reality enough to feed 5,000!